L. Donovan
My name is Linda and I am 50
years old. I have been married for
almost 25 years, I am a registered nurse by training, graduating from Jewish
Hospital School of Nursing in Cincinnati, Ohio and I have a bachelors in Business
Administration from North Carolina Wesleyan College. I have worked in a health care organization
since college graduation and presently work as a Database Coordinator. My husband and I own a home, we have a cat
and we take trips to exotic countries, such as Peru, Iceland and Greenland. I enjoy spending time with family and
friends, bicycling with the Louisville Bike Club, hiking, and going
shopping. I am your normal, average
woman, but I had a secret for over 20 years of my life.
I had an eating
disorder.
There is no specific date or
time that I can say I became bulimic or anorexia and there is no specific time
or date that I can say I “stopped” my eating disorder. But I can say that I will forever be in
recovery as I am an addict. I have lived
my life, but I cannot say that I really “enjoyed” the 20 or so years of my life
that I spent either with my head in the toilet or not eating at all? Probably at the age of 20 I walked into the
revolving door of wanting to “find myself” and getting stuck into that “career”
of eating disordered people. I have hit
as high as 195 pounds in my life and I have hit as low as 90 pounds.
Every day of my life I am
constantly reminded of how powerful the forces of this disease are, and how it
is not worth nor it was ever worth wasting my life for the concept of
“thinness”. Today, to our relatively
skewed American eye, I look healthy and seem very fit for “someone my
age”. But I wish that my body knew that. I have medication that assists me to go to
the bathroom because I took up to 25 laxatives a day for over 20 years. I have problems with my joints because I
have over-exercised and my body did not have enough nutrition. I have an irregular heartbeat and a decreased
bone density, I have an ulcer, my intestine is two times the size of what a
normal persons intestine is, my teeth have chipped and my gums have
receded. But mostly my reproductive
system is useless. I could never have
children because I had no body fat and did not menstruate. And without body fat your body cannot produce
the estrogen needed to reproduce. All of
this may seem trivial to you today, but when your friends’ children are having
children, you wish that you were a part of their conversation.
So who is the “perfect
candidate” for this terrible, debilitating disease? Actually anyone because 1 out of every 4
college aged woman has an eating disorder.
And every 1 out of 3 people have a “phobia” of being fat. In the back of my mind I have understood
thinness as a term for “control” or maybe the term for respect and being
appreciated. I always felt that people
would “like me” if I were thin. Not just
guys, but girls too. I always felt that
people would talk down and about me if I wore a size greater than a 2. I had to be “perfect”. Heaven forbid if I could go out with my
friends and eat French fries as I could gain a pound.
An eating disorder, while
still an addiction, is also a way of coping and avoiding the pain of every day
life. It is a method to hide the pain or
anger of your everyday emotions that you struggle with daily. And once you become so obsessed with your war
with food and you, then your addiction kicks in. Addictions, also called “disruptive life
styles” become deeply engrained in the individual and are very difficult to
change or modify. Sometimes the person
may not recognize that a problem exists and it may come to the attention of
someone else. Or the person may
recognize that they have an addiction, but do not want to face it and find it
easier to go through the process of denial.
That was me to the “T”. I can
honestly say that this is what I missed out on the most in life is doing
something spontaneously. So if you have
that chance, please don’t give it up to regret it later. Being “thin” is not worth losing friendships
or companionships.
Anorexia, or basically
starving oneself, has many different symptoms such as the person has lost a
great deal of weight in a short period of time and yet continues to diet,
although they are already bone-thin.
They are continuously dissatisfied with their appearance, always
claiming to feel fat. Anorexics can
develop anemia and it can lead to menstrual irregularities and to infertility.
They become obsessive about exercising, and mainly appear depressed much of the
time. They develop dry skin, sallow complexion,
and puffy eyes with very dark circles under them. Unfortunately anorexia can lead to low blood
pressure, slow pulse, or low body temperature.
Basically, the body is about to shut down. It can also lead to growth of a fine white
hair (lanugo) on the body. Extremely
low weights can lead to failure of vital organs, such as your liver to
function, your heart to beat normally and your kidneys may shut down. And, sometimes, it can lead to death. People
with anorexia literally starve themselves. They just do not take in enough calories.
Bulimia or the desire to
continuously purge after eating, can lead to a variety of serious health
problems. The Bulimic individual eats large amounts of food over a short period
of time and then forces vomiting and/or uses Syrup of Ipecac to stimulate
vomiting, laxatives to produce diarrhea and diuretics to produce excessive
urination. The bulimic disappears into
the bathroom for long periods of time to induce vomiting, eats enormous amounts
of food at one sitting, but does not gain weight, exercises often but does not
lose weight and can even gain weight from the large quantities of sugars and
fats that remain in the body. They have
swollen neck glands, scars on the back of their hands from forced vomiting, and
the bile from vomiting creates the teeth to crack and/or fall out and like an
anorexic they appear depressed much of the time. Chronic vomiting can lead to bleeding in the
throat and to rupture of the esophagus.
Uses of syrup of ipecac or laxatives are extremely dangerous and can
lead to major damage to the nervous system or to the heart. The heart can become erratic and can cause a
heart attack. Chest pain is very
prevalent in bulimics, but it can be a result of intestinal problems or a
possible heart attack. And if you are in
denial it makes it that much harder.
And again like an anorexia, death is pretty final. This disorder may go
undetected because the victim’s weight can be at times normal or even somewhat
overweight.
If you feel that you have an
eating disorder, you need to recognize that fact and speak to someone
immediately. Whether it is your
physician, your counselor, your parents, your friend or your friend’s friend,
you must attempt to get help right away.
Once again, my view of myself
is an ongoing struggle and process. I
struggle with my weight everyday. I have
lived my life, while not really enjoying every day. Do not let this happen to you. Remember, you have been placed on this earth
for only one chance and do not waste that opportunity by starving yourself to
get approval or to hide a problem.